
On October 30, 2016, my beloved daughter Morgan died after battling eating disorders for seven (7) long years. She was 23 years old when she was taken. At the moment of her death, when a daddy hears those dark words, “She’s gone” though he may not know it at the time, the better part of him is also ripped away.
Morgan was brilliant, kind, and fiercely determined to get well. She thought of others, often before her own needs. Her own words, “I can seem to help everyone else … I just can’t help myself” is her legacy. And yet, those very words still haunt her daddy every day.
When those words and the reality of a loss no parent should ever have to suffer are combined with the state of the eating disorder community today, you realize that there will be many more of our loved ones condemned to share the same fate which took my daughter… unless a seismic change is forthcoming.
A System Without a Compass
Even at that time, the system that claimed to know how to help Morgan had no map, no unity, and tragically, no accountability. Nearly a decade later, the eating disorder community is in even greater disarray. There are still no generally accepted treatment guidelines … no consensus on what works, no uniform standards for care, no consistency from one program to another and no accountability nor consequences. If you send your child for treatment, what happens next depends less on science and more on which center you happen to find, and what ideology dominates that space.
The Vanishing of Science and the Rise of Ideology
The dire crisis in the community has worsened as grant funding for research dries up. Federal and private funders have largely turned their attention to other mental health priorities, leaving eating disorder research chronically underfunded. Few new studies are being published, and the next generation of researchers is dwindling. Research professionals and medical clinicians on the front lines rarely collaborate. In this vacuum, ideological movements have filled the void … often louder, more absolutist, more absurd and less accountable to data or outcomes.
Militant factions within the “body liberation” movement now control far too much of the public conversation in the community. They label professionals, clinicians and even families in a gross, inflammatory manner. Anyone who speaks about weight restoration or malnutrition is labeled as “fatphobic.” White Supremacy Culture. Invasive species. Utilizing every “ism” word possible. Complex medical and psychiatric illnesses are reframed as political identity issues. The result? A silencing of nuance and a dangerous confusion between eating disorder treatment and radical social activism. Inflammatory labeling has become the substitute for reasoned professional, collaborative communication. And our loved ones suffer.
Private Equity and the Hollowing Out of Care
At the same time, private equity–owned treatment centers, once the great hope for scaling access, are collapsing under the weight of their own failed business models. Many have failed outright or are surviving only by slashing costs: laying off medical doctors who served as full time employees, replacing them with part time independent contractors and inexperienced working staff. Running skeletal programs that cannot provide the continuous, multidisciplinary care our loved ones require. The result is a race to the bottom: more marketing, fewer doctors, more “coaches,” less medicine. No accountability nor consequences.
Families are left navigating glossy websites and sales teams instead of evidence-based programs. If a family wishes to speak with the medical director of a program before entrusting their child to that program … good luck. Insurance denials come faster than ever. Inpatient stays are shorter. Step-down programs are often nonexistent.
When Morgan was fighting for her life, I wondered whether the lack of care was a failure of coordination. I no longer wonder. It has never been clearer that it was and continues to be, a failure of values.
A Community in Financial and Moral Crisis
The largest eating disorder nonprofit organizations, long believed to be the moral anchors of the community, are collapsing financially some losing more than $200,000 per year. Echo chamber thinking and associated conduct have replaced outreach to professionals who respectfully disagree with their view. Where at one time, these organizations were led by persons of vision, true giants of the community, now with very few exceptions, they are led by boards who shrink away from transparency, oversight and responsibility. These organizations host conferences and awareness campaigns, but their impact is negligible at best and failing at worst.
Their messaging has grown vacuous and timid, shaped more by the politics of social media than the needs of our loved ones. Once they were advocates for treatment access and medical rigor; now too often, they stand meekly on the sidelines … mere bystanders to the on-going carnage.
The Human Cost
The price paid for the wholesale failure of the community is measured by the dearest blood possible … the lives of our loved ones. The mortality rate for eating disorders, already the highest among psychiatric illnesses [apart from opioid addiction] has worsened. Suicide and medical complications are climbing. The promise that “recovery is possible” rings increasingly hollow to families who can’t even get a proper diagnosis, let alone a full course of the highest quality medical and mental health care. Which results in:

Behind every number is a person, a victim. Behind every person is a family like mine, standing outside a treatment center, a hospital, a counselor’s office, desperately holding on to the only thing they can … that is, the fading hope that this time will be different.
Where Do We Go From Here?
Families are entitled to transparency. Accountability. Honesty. From our doctors, clinicians, and counselors. Families should demand nothing less. But, to accomplish this reality, we not only need an evolution of thought and wisdom … we require a bold reckoning. The eating disorder community must reclaim science, ethics, and accountability. The community can only provide those necessary qualities by demanding:
- The adoption of national treatment guidelines grounded in evidence, not ideology.
- Federal, state and philanthropic investment in clinical research and longitudinal outcomes.
- Oversight of private treatment companies that market medical care that is not forthcoming as it sheds experienced medical practitioners and licensed staff.
- Strong, bold, new leadership in nonprofit organizations that prioritize patients over politics.
- Measured inclusion of all reasonable, rational, intelligent viewpoints and persons.
But these steps require a courage of conviction… conviction which is sorely lacking.
Not just Morgan, but all those who have died from eating disorders cannot die in vain. But until we admit that this system and community are broken, until we expose the silence, the failures, the charlatans, thed fraud and the fear … we will keep losing more daughters, more sons, more loved ones, more years of life.
The eating disorder community once promised healing. Today, it must fight simply to survive. For survive it must. But in an evolved, intelligent, collaborative manner.
The very lives of our loved ones depend upon it.
