RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION ?

Recently, after expressing my views on the eating disorder community and its many dysfunctions, I was informed by an “eating disorder advocate” that I only had “righteous indignation.” In the past, this same person also opined that I was in the eating disorder community solely to make money.

Righteous indignation? Solely to make money? Let me answer both plainly: my anger is earned, and my motives are grief-forged — not mercenary. I paid my entry fee into this dysfunctional community with the dearest blood possible: my daughter’s. I did not come here to be liked, or to join the chorus of vapid, comfortable, egomaniacal voices. I came because someone I loved was ripped from life. Silence would be complicity.

Make no mistake, there are some incredible, soulful, intelligent, compassionate souls in the eating disorder community. Unfortunately, they largely remain silent, on the sidelines. Fearful of being ostracized or cancelled by the hate filled, social justice warriors.

I wish with every fiber of my being that I was not in this decaying eating disorder community. I wish that I did not know even one person in this horrifically comical, appalling community. For that would mean my daughter, Morgan lived. But since she died, I will allow my “righteous indignation” to illuminate what having a beloved child ripped from life is like.

Sunday nights in an intensive care unit in a hospital in a large city can be very quiet.  But, not for you. You hear the ear shattering blaring of alarms, screaming out “Code Blue.”  Death is sounding for your daughter. Death has come for you!

With panic in your eyes, you look into her room and cannot even count the number of hospital employees trying to bring her back to life. For at that moment, she is dead. Her heart is not beating. And you feel nothing at that point.  The greatest fear a parent can face has you in its powerful, icy grip. Your brain has stopped working. You are not aware of anything… except the frantic efforts to bring her back to life. Finally … they detect a faint heartbeat after nine excruciating minutes.

Do you know what it’s like to have your child dead for 9 minutes while you look on helplessly? It is a lifetime. You are drenched in sweat. You are aware of nothing. Except … for the briefest of times, she is living again.

Until once again … she dies … and you again hear those horrific alarms of death. Again … her room is filled with employees doing all they can to bring her back. You are numb. Your entire world is in that room … on that incredibly dark night. And once more … they briefly bring her back.

That is when the doctors pull you aside and tell you … each time it is more difficult. You ask if she feels any pain. They cannot give you a straight answer. They tell you that in all likelihood, there is already substantial brain and organ damage. You ask them if there is truly any hope.  They cannot look you in the eyes and are mumbling non-answers. And you know. You know. You are faced with the most difficult decision any person will ever have to make.

You remember one time in the past, your beloved daughter saying … “Daddy … don’t let me die.” And you know, you know, for an absolute certainty … that your life will never be the same. You wonder if you can ever forgive yourself for betraying those sacred words.

There is nothing performative about that grief. It is not a credential.

You slowly nod your head and quietly, while tears are pouring down your cheeks, say … no more alarms. No more bells. She will go in peace.

You sit next to her, holding her hand, praying for a miracle … knowing that one will not come. Finally, you hear those words which rip the heart from any parent … “She’s gone.”

You slowly walk down the dark hospital hallways. Sunday nights can be quiet in a hospital. You go to a waiting room where your daughter’s mom is waiting with friends.  You can’t say the words… only shake your head. And you hear that heart wrenching scream of anguish. And yet, you feel nothing.

Your life as you knew it … is over.

You live in a fog. Making funeral arrangements, service arrangements. You feel nothing. Food has no taste. Your soul is numb. You wonder if you even want to wake up.

But you find a way, some way, to wake up and to keep living. Now, imagine that for most of your professional life, you had been a shallow, superficial, asshole. An attorney without a soul. But something has awakened within you. You begin to feel driven. Perhaps for the first time in your life, you are aware of something far greater than you.

In your daughter’s name, you only want to make a difference. You want to help others. But you are so broken. You make mistakes. You live in a constant state of guilt and shame. Nonetheless, you pledge to help others. And so, you try.

You then discover in the eating disorder community, children’s lives are being reduced to talking points, a and mortality is sidelined in favor of crowd-measuring. You read that this is no place for thin, white people to jump in. You realize that families are being betrayed by radical activists who only wish to parade their own ignorance and internal pain. Nonetheless, you continue to try. You try to serve.

You give two TEDx talks on eating disorders.

You organize and with a medical doctor, present a talk to Apple … and its 150,000 employees. The talk was broadcast on Apple’s North American network.

You organize and with that same medical doctor, present a talk to Raytheon … and its 75,000 employees. Also broadcast on its national network. This talk was so informative and compelling that the Raytheon office hosting it won a national corporate award for collaboration with the community.

You organize and present a 30-minute segment every week on a local radio station entitled, the Mental Health Moment. You have national experts on mental health appear on your show.

You appear on the local CBS and Warner affiliates talking about eating disorders.

The methodist church you belonged to does a video on your daughter and her struggles. With over 300,000 views, no other videos this church has done comes even close.

You speak to school district’s counselors and nurses. You organize presentations to communities. You visit young people in treatment programs. That is still not enough.

You are still living in a twilight that knows not joy, nor love, nor happiness.

Because you do not check the correct political and social boxes, because you frighten people, the eating disorder community turns on you. Have you made mistakes? Hell yes.

But it gets worse. Just five years ago, your father, your mother and your older brother all die within 14 months of each other. Your brother was the picture of health. And he only trusted you to tell the doctors to end his bodily functions. Imagine that much death in such a short period of time.

At that moment in time, your son and his wife have a baby. Imagine the very first time you hold your granddaughter in your arms, you have to tell your son you are flying to Florida the very next day to tell doctors to remove life sustaining equipment from your brother.

You know the eating disorder community doesn’t care. You frighten them because you do not play their pedantic games. You care about life and death not social justice and political statements.

And so, your mindset begins to evolve. You see the vile, on-going corruption in the community. You see the illness which claimed your daughter’s life being used as a platform to spew forth the community’s social justice and political viewpoints. And you reach a point where you say … enough!

Donors to NEDA come to you so angry that NEDA is being turned into a social justice and political side show by Chevese Turner and her social justice warriors. You have the ability and skill to take action. But first, you give NEDA almost 20 opportunities to talk before you file suit. An expeditious settlement is reached, a settlement which also financially benefits research into the genetic aspects of eating disorders. And yet, the very person who attempted to destroy NEDA’s purpose, skates by with no tangible consequences. She knows that her minions and cohorts in the community will continue to breathe life into her. Consequences and ramifications are foreign to the eating disorder community.

Undeterred, you go after more inappropriate conduct in the community. You see the specter of death appear in the words, “Terminal Anorexia.” Like many others, you are horrified. University-based professors write neatly composed articles opposing it, articles which accomplish nothing. Nothing tangible is being done.

So, you take action. You file a number of medical board complaints. That changed everything. You meet Dr. Jennifer Gaudiani and look her in the eyes. Much to your surprise, you do not find a monster. Instead, you find a professional. A soul. A human being. A person then in pain. You talk. And then collaborate with many others. What grew from that hard work was not triumphalism but human connection: colleagues turned collaborators, pain turned toward repair. And maybe … just maybe, you find through adversity a greater understanding about life and death. You realize that the manner in which we face death is just as important as the manner in which we face life.

Then, there is iaedp. The corruption and stupidity in that organization were and are legion. And the eating disorder community DID NOTHING. It cowered. The rot there was obvious and long tolerated. You initially do not pursue headlines and seek to meet and resolve all issues privately. That outreach is rejected. So, professionals in the community request action. The result: past due taxes, penalties and interest in the hundreds of thousands of dollars are being required to be paid. Board certification is being reformed and made more affordable. Individual chapters are gaining their independence. Thousands of therapists are now being spared needless expense. The community has improved — slightly, imperfectly — and for that action, very, very few people have said thank you. Predictable.          

You are not finished. Not nearly. You expose how Chevese Turner and others of her ilk took down the Legacy of Hope. And for their misconduct, they have been rewarded and still have a voice. The community blindly accepts those who think like they do. Contrarily, you continue to exist. Living with the greatest heartache possible.

No matter how many times textbooks say, “it’s not a parent’s fault,” or some vacuous therapist tries to convince you of that, they fail. They haven’t lived it. They don’t live with the daily pain, the heartache. The anguish.

I do. Every … single … day.

I have made mistakes, and I will make more in the future. Grief is not a moral compass. But the stubborn refusal to confront corruption, the eagerness to defend the performative rather than the practical, that is the real moral failure. When children’s lives are reduced to talking points, when mortality is sidelined in favor of crowd-measuring, the community betrays the very people it claims to serve.

So — righteous indignation? It is paid in blood and sleepless nights. It is the only honest response left when an industry cloaks politics in the language of care and ignores the medical science in front of it. If you are offended by my anger, consider why the community has earned it.

I do not wish to be part of this community. I wish — every day — that I did not know anyone in it. I wish my daughter, Morgan, were alive. I mourn her constantly. My activism is not grandstanding; it is grief turned toward accountability, toward saving the next life.

If you call that righteous indignation, so be it. I am guilty as charged. And I will keep speaking and acting until this feckless culture chooses truth over theater.

So … righteous indignation?

A brilliant light was extinguished in Dallas on October 30, 2016. That tragedy is the ledger against which I measure every day. Righteous indignation is paid with the dearest blood possible — and I will not apologize for the balance I keep.

When Maladjusted Masquerades as Activism … Weight Stigma Awareness Suffers

Weight Stigma Awareness Week should be an opportunity to confront one of the most damaging forces in healthcare: bias against people in larger bodies. This should be a week for data, clinical rigor, and constructive collaboration. Done well, it can highlight evidence-based solutions, elevate medical leadership, and foster collaboration across disciplines. And families who are suffering are the ultimate recipients of this shared wisdom.

Next week’s agenda includes sessions that could help shape our response to stigma and patient care. For example:

  • Rebecka Peebles, MD, FAAP, DABOM, & Lauren Hartman, MD — “Healing Without Harm: Ending Weight Stigma in Healthcare.” Practical, evidence-based strategies for clinicians who treat real patients in real exam rooms. The goal is not slogans but practical training rooted in science.

  • Leslie L. Williams, MD — “Navigating Eating Disorder Risks in the Age of GLP-1 Medications: A Weight-Inclusive Clinical Approach.” With GLP-1 drugs reshaping public conversations about weight and health, the need for clear, medically sound guidance has never been greater. Families deserve facts, not fearmongering.
  • Abigail Pont, MD — “Anti-Fat Bias in Medical Education Through the Eyes of a Medical Trainee.” Change must begin with training. Reforming curricula to prepare physicians to treat all patients with dignity and competence is not optional — it is essential.

These are the conversations that deserve attention, funding, and follow-through. They are the ones that have the potential to save lives.

But here lies the danger: while some leaders are advancing medicine, others are actively working to undermine it. Instead of fostering collaboration, maladjusted activists reject it. Instead of engaging with science, maladjusted activists ignore and dismiss it. Instead of building trust between patients and the medical community, maladjusted activists sow division, reject science, reject collaboration, and replace patient-centered work with grievance theater.

The weapons they use are fatuous ideology and vacuous grievances void of real substance and merit. This leaves patients and families caught in the crossfire.

This is the dark side of the ledger: militant, maladjusted, angry activists, wallowing in such internal pain, who reject collaboration, denigrate clinicians, and weaponize grievance for influence. This sadly is not theoretical.

It played out in 2021 at the Legacy of Hope Summit — a convening of some of the field’s foremost experts intended to build consensus and advance patient-centered solutions. Instead of joining that work, some radical activists not only opposed it, both before and after, but they tried to burn it down.

The most vocal critic was Chevese Underhill Turner, co-host of Weight Stigma Awareness Week, who also serves on the Board of Advisors of Within Health and is “Queen of the Ashes.”

Regarding the Legacy of Hope, Turner wrote:

“The entire ED community is getting ‘upskirted’ by certain men and we cannot put our own FOMO aside long enough to see it. Instead, we attend these men’s meetings and give them power to continue their gaslighting and lack of any willingness to see the intersections affecting our field. I’d love for other women to join me (and a few others) in being difficult when it comes to these people.”

This was not a critique grounded in evidence. It was not a call for better data or stronger collaboration. It was a deliberate attempt to sabotage a convening of experts — through crude language, ad hominem attacks, and an open invitation to disrupt and destroy.

Turner’s misguided viewpoints do not end there. On various podcasts and in social media, Turner has attacked clinicians, mocks evidence, and replaces medicine and science with grievance politics.

Her own words make it clear:

“It bothered me that all the air was taken by a white perspective.”

“My heart is in the higher weight community, whether a person has an eating disorder or not.”

“I believe bodies are political.”

“Everything is political.”

“I came out of the womb as a political beast.”

“When I hear “marketing” in the context of ED services to marginalized communities I hear white folks not learning from colonization and slavery. We need to stand down.”

“We must also be centering and supporting BiPOC, LGBTQ+, fat therapists and professionals. This is no space for white, straight and thin folks to jump in.”

“When we constantly protect the feelings of those who are oppressing then we never actually get to the work needed to undo the oppression.”

Turner, in writing stated that she supported and was working toward the following: “ … providing reparations to Black People, Indigenous people and People of Color, (“BIPOC”) especially queer and transgender BIPOC; hiring a transgender consultant to revise your marketing material; establishing sliding fee scales for BIPOC, transgender and gender diverse clients; redistributing wealth from the for-profit ED treatment world; embracing and incorporating non-western treatment practices; providing access to Hormone Replacement Therapy.”

These extremist radical views come from ignorance and distrust of the medical community. In Turner’s own words:

“The DSM [Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders], it is what it is … it’s not great.”

“Those of us who have done the work around our internalized biases no longer trust the medical establishment to actually help us.”

“That has only grown into a place where we are now. Body Positivity Movement. We don’t want to be judged on our looks and our size. The medical community said, ‘Ok. We’re going to judge you on your health.’”

“Most of the country is at a higher BMI, but when you begin to talk about people above a 35 who are visually fat, the oppression increases — plenty of data on that. People in the 50, 60 etc (superfat) range experience even more oppression. These are the folks who are publicly chastised and harmed continuously by the medical profession. Oh, the stories I could tell. Public health in this country is getting it so wrong and there is a better way, but we need to be willing to actually listen to those being harmed.”

“There may be some things with eating disorders that are brain issues … I don’t know.”

Turner’s harmful, illogical, extreme points of view do not constitute insight – they are ignorance masquerading in cartoon regalia, strutting as wisdom. They demonstrate contempt for medical science disguised as activism, reckless to the point of sabotage. And yet, somehow, they earn you the golden ticket to co-host Weight Stigma Awareness Week. Turner’s very presence doesn’t elevate the cause; it cheapens it, hollowing the message until nothing credible remains.

In the past, Turner redirected organizational platforms away from patient-centered care and toward political crusades. As a former officer of NEDA, one of the largest eating disorder organizations in the country, she proudly declared, “We won’t be deterred in our social justice work.” Under her “leadership,” donors were encouraged to contribute to the Minnesota Freedom Fund — an organization later revealed to have posted bail for accused murderers, rapists, and other violent offenders.

Ask yourself: who benefits from public disruption? Certainly not patients. Nor families. Nor clinicians attempting to balance complex risks and benefits. Disruption for its own sake only produces a cacophony of racket instead of clarity. It produces division where we need partnership and collaboration.

And yet, Turner is annually trotted out as a co-host of Weight Stigma Awareness Week even though her message never changes. She is still handed the microphone. Still made co-host. Still rewarded.

Turner’s destructive, insidious pattern is consistent and consequential. When so called leaders prioritize ideological purity tests over rigorous science, they do more than dispute ideas — they undermine care. When organizational platforms are repurposed for partisan causes, and donors are steered toward politically charged funds with questionable implications, the field’s credibility erodes. When individuals who oppose expert collaboration are nonetheless rewarded with boards, speaking invitations, and opportunity, the message is clear: rhetoric is encouraged; results are irrelevant. And yet, that is the reality in the eating disorder community.

In any other professional community, such conduct would bring harsh consequences. Suspension. Banishment. In the eating disorder world, it brings greater influence and opportunity. But it does not have to be that way.

The way forward is clear but it requires courage and resolve:

  • Elevate science-first voices. Medical experts who ground their work in data and clinical care should be at the center of not just this week, but every week and this field.
  • Insist on collaboration. Medicine is not the enemy. Progress depends on partnership between clinicians, researchers, and advocates willing to engage constructively.
  • Enforce accountability. Organizations must set standards of conduct. Those who undermine collaboration with reckless rhetoric cannot continue to hold leadership roles.
  • Protect patient-centered care. Eating disorder treatment should not be a platform for partisan politics. The focus must remain on evidence-based approaches that save lives.

Patients deserve better than empty slogans. Families deserve better than spectacle and disruption. The eating disorder community deserves leaders who are accountable, collaborative, and grounded in science.

Weight Stigma Awareness Week should not be a stage for any one person’s hate filled ideology. It should be a platform for medical and science based workable solutions.

The choices confronting us are simple.

Evidence based treatment over drama and dysfunction.

Clinicians and researchers who do the hard work of translating evidence into care over charlatans who sell social justice snake oil.

Collaboration over spectacle.

Accountability over impunity.

Lives are at stake. Families are desperate for solutions grounded in competent, humane care. Patients cannot wait for ideology to sort itself out. If we allow disruption to replace discourse, we become complicit in the harm that follows.

And the escalating mortality rate.

When Social Justice Therapists Go Too Far …

Since prolific anti-semitism directed toward Jewish therapists by non-Jewish therapists is an appalling reality, it was predictable that the assassination of Charlie Kirk would reveal the worst in humanity … including of course, eating disorder therapists and family liaisons. More’s the pity.

When a loved one has an eating disorder, families are already living in a war zone. Every meal feels like a battlefield. Every doctor’s appointment feels like judgment day. And when parents turn to therapy, they are not looking for ideology, slogans, or someone’s Twitter feed come to life. They are looking for life saving help.

Eating disorders don’t care about politics. They don’t care about hashtags. Eating disorders only care about shutting down organs, hijacking minds, and killing people. But too many therapists, treatment centers, and professional organizations are importing America’s divisiveness into treatment. The result? Families are left paralyzed, distracted, and betrayed.

More and more therapists and family liaisons are peddling something else: politics disguised as treatment. Some wave the flag of “Free Palestine” with militant zeal. And yet, most could not even remotely explain the complex nuances of Middle East politics going back thousands of years. When the phrase, “From the River to the Sea,” is spewed forth with all the hatred and horror which exists within the soul, many therapists and activists cannot even identify which river or which sea is being referred to, let alone identify the dark significance of that phrase.

These militant therapists and family liaisons sneer that the death of Charlie Kirk, a conservative commentator was deserved, and in their ignorance and room temperature IQs, slap “ism” labels on him and then rejoice that his life was tragically cut short. These providers and activists are intentionally obliterating the line between activism and care. Families should take this as the clearest possible warning sign: walk away. As fast as you possibly can. Do not trust those people or their organizations.

It is bad enough that families seeking help often find therapy rooms that sound more like activist seminars than clinical spaces. Instead of guidance on food and recovery, they get:

  • “Diet culture is colonialism.”
  • “Anorexia is a symptom of white supremacy.”
  • “Thin privilege is the real disease.”

These are not treatment strategies. They are slogans, ripped from Twitter and recycled in therapy sessions. When families should be hearing about family-based treatment (FBT), CBT-E, or medical stabilization, they’re handed culture-war scripts that do nothing but fracture trust.

Eating disorders thrive on chaos and division. They feed on families who are fractured, therapists who are distracted, and organizations that are broken. Every minute spent arguing over slogans is a minute not spent on saving a life. Every resource squandered on activism is a resource stolen from recovery.

Therapy is supposed to be a sanctuary from the chaos of the outside world. It is supposed to be a space where pain is met with compassion, not political litmus tests. Injecting social justice battles into that space doesn’t just distract — it actively harms.

Here’s how:

  1. It replaces healing with indoctrination. Patients and families arrive desperate for answers about food, weight, fear, and survival. Instead, they may be handed lectures about geopolitics, race, or privilege. The family’s suffering becomes a prop for the therapist’s personal crusade. That is gross exploitation, not care.
  • It breeds division when unity is essential. Eating disorders tear families apart. Recovery depends on pulling together. A therapist who filters everything through activism risks turning family members against each other based on political or cultural identity. That kind of manufactured division is gasoline on the fire.
  • It signals contempt for dissent. A therapist who proudly mocks the death of someone they dislike politically is broadcasting one thing: if you disagree with me, I do not respect you. How could any family trust such a provider to respect their child, their family bond, or their values? Trust collapses before therapy even begins.
  • It encourages rigidity instead of curiosity. The most effective therapists know they don’t have all the answers. They ask, they listen, they adapt. But the activist-therapist thrives on certainty: oppressors vs. oppressed, good vs. evil, us vs. them. That rigidity suffocates the flexibility patients desperately need for recovery.
  • It undermines professional ethics. The ethical codes of every counseling profession warn against imposing personal beliefs on clients. Therapists who cannot resist bringing their political militancy into the room have already failed the most basic test of professionalism.

Let’s be clear: cultural awareness and respect for diversity are good things. But respect is not the same as ideology. Sensitivity is not the same as indoctrination. Families need therapists who can meet them where they are, not therapists who drag them into battles they never signed up to fight.

Eating disorders are the second most lethal mental health illness, outpaced only by opioid addiction. This is life-or-death work. Families should demand nothing less than evidence-based treatment, humility, and compassion. When a therapist instead advertises their political rage as part of their practice, they are showing you what matters most to them — and it isn’t your child’s recovery.

The therapy room should be sacrosanct and must never be allowed to become another front line in America’s political battles. Families: if your loved one’s treatment starts to look like activism instead of medicine, get out. Your child’s survival depends on science, unity, and clarity — not the noise of a broken country bleeding into a broken field.

Dialogue Without Accountability is Performative.

“We have to abandon the conceit that isolated personal actions are going to solve this crisis. Our policies have to shift.”

Al Gore — Inventor of the Internet

“Effectively, change is almost impossible without industry-wide collaboration, cooperation and consensus.”

 Simon Mainwaring — Author, Consultant, Branding Expert

In the past month, eating disorder organizations collectively released two podcasts. These podcasts featured several purported leaders in the eating disorder community. The theme was “collaboration and coalition.”

This first podcast was entitled, “Unity in Action: How NEDA, AED, and iaedp are Reimagining Collaboration in Eating Disorder Care.” Its moderator was Dawn Gannon, the Executive Director of iaedp. The participants were Dra. Eva Trujillo, Chairperson of the Executive Committee of iaedp, Doreen Marshall, the Chief Executive Officer of NEDA and Gry Kjaersdam Telleus, PhD, FAED, President of AED.

https://iaedpfoundation.com/s1-e3

The second podcast was entitled, “Hope in Action: Advocacy, Education and Family Support in Eating Disorder Care.” Its moderator again was Dawn Gannon, the Executive Director of iaedp as moderator. The participants were Dra. Eva Trujillo, Chairperson of the Executive Committee of iaedp, Judy Krasna, Executive Director of F.E.A.S.T. and Johanna Kandel, Founder and CEO of the National Alliance for Eating Disorders.

https://iaedpfoundation.com/hope-in-action

[As an aside, Judy Krasna is working tirelessly at F.E.A.S.T. The hand she was dealt is incredibly daunting. Judy’s ability to bring hope to others despite her own personal tragedy is inspirational. This article is in no way, directed at Judy nor F.E.A.S.T., a parent focused organization.]

As for the others though …

Having turned their backs on cooperation for years, these organizations through their annointed leaders now peddle podcasts on “unity” — as if the worsening eating disorder statistics their arrogance helped create have nothing to do with them. This is not collaboration; it is historical revisionism dressed up as thought leadership, an attempt to recast failure as vision while the damage to patients, families, and the field itself continues to deepen.

For decades, these organizations have operated less like partners in a shared mission and more like rivals protecting their turf. Their leaders’ unchecked egos, refusal to share platforms, and insistence on gatekeeping professional legitimacy fractured a field that desperately needed cohesion. While the need for collaboration was obvious to clinicians, patients, and families, the so-called “leaders” chose pride over progress.

The results are plain in the data. Nearly 9% of Americans — about 28.8 million people — will face an eating disorder in their lifetime. Yet fewer than half of those suffering ever receive treatment specifically for their condition.

When my beloved daughter, Morgan died from anorexia in October 2016, the mortality rate was believed to be one death every 62 minutes. Under the “leadership” of these organizations, the mortality rate worsened. Now … the death toll is one soul every 52 minutes. One beloved daughter, son, wife, husband, brother or sister … every 52 minutes. At least one family fractured and condemned to exist in a living hell every 52 minutes. 10,200 Americans every year. To call this a systemic, reprehensible organizational failure would be charitable.

These outcomes did not happen in a vacuum — they were shaped, in part, by these organizations that prioritized self-promotion and control over collective action.

Now, with public scrutiny mounting, their very existence in doubt because of their incompetence, corruption, and statistics impossible to ignore, these same voices have turned to podcasting as if to reinvent themselves as conveners of dialogue. But dialogue without accountability is just performative. To applaud their sudden embrace of “collaboration” is to reward the very behaviors that deepened the crisis and worsened the mortality rate.

The Podcasts: A Sudden Conversion to Collaboration?

In their recent podcasts, the organizations present themselves as apostles of unity. “We don’t need to say the same thing. We need to say the right things together,” one leader insists, followed by declarations that “true partnership is not a press release” and that the field must “move from collaboration to coalition.” The language is lofty, almost aspirational — but it also reads like a confession.

For decades, collaboration has not only been neglected, it was actively resisted. The leaders now calling for “shared goals” and “mutual accountability” echo the same tired voices who presided over years of exclusion, ego-driven silos, and public refusal to partner. Their own admission — “we really don’t collaborate, and I think that’s holding us back” — is less revelation than confirmation of what patients, families, and professionals have long known.

The sudden insistence that “the field is watching, families are listening, we must speak with one voice” rings hollow when measured against history. It was precisely the lack of one voice — the splintering of the field into competing fiefdoms — that weakened public understanding, delayed medical recognition, and contributed to the worsening statistics. To now stage podcasts about “harmony” is to behave as though the crisis simply materialized, rather than acknowledging their own role in deepening it.

Even their calls for memorandums of understanding, shared campaigns, and joint advocacy are telling. These are not bold new ideas — they are the most basic commitments of any field facing a public health emergency. That such fundamentals are being floated as if groundbreaking only underscores how long the organizations refused to take even the first steps toward genuine partnership and how lost and vapid these organizations are.

The Gap Between Words and Actions

The dissonance lies not only in what is being said, but in what is conspicuously absent. These podcasts are heavy with declarations of urgency, integrity, and mutual respect, but strikingly light on accountability for past failures. Nowhere is there acknowledgment of how long collaboration was resisted, how many opportunities were squandered, or how deeply the credibility of the field was damaged by turf wars and egos.

The most obvious, blaring example of organizational hubris and failure is their betrayal of the Legacy of Hope Summit conducted in 2021.

https://jeatdisord.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40337-021-00501-w

Over 20 of the foremost experts in eating disorders met in Dallas, Texas to reach a collaborative consensus on eating disorders. All of the organizations were invited to attend and participate. All attended. However, as the Legacy of Hope process developed, those same organizations which attended the summit with grand words of cooperation, one by one withdrew from the process. Only AED, because of its then Executive Director, Elissa Myer, saw the project through to publication. The others? Actively slunk away from collaboration and sought to protect their own fiefdom.

In fact, one radical activist, who is embraced by one treatment center and as usual, is being trotted out during Weight Stigma Awareness Week had this to say about the Legacy of Hope: “The entire ED community is getting upskirted by certain men and we cannot put our own FOMO aside long enough to see it. Instead, we attend these men’s meetings and give them power to continue their gaslighting and lack of any willingness to see the intersections affecting our field. I’d love for other women to join me (and a few others) in being difficult when it comes to these people.“

Further, it is particularly galling that Johanna Kandel, one of the persons on the second podcast appeared at the Legacy of Hope in person and via telephone and then… Nothing. She did not sign off on the Legacy. She and the organization she leads did not endorse it. She and her organization turned their backs on the community’s greatest hope for collaboration. Without explanation. Just silence. And now she is one of the voices calling for collaboration?

What could have started as the foundational cornerstone for collaboration instead turned into one of the darkest moments for the eating disorder community. Perpetrated by these organizations, their egos and self-interest.

There is no concrete evidence that their current rhetoric will translate into change. Promises of “more clinicians trained,” “a new website,” or “sharing resources” are thin commitments when weighed against the scale of the crisis. Families listening to these conversations do not need another press release in audio form — they need assurance that the field is finally willing to dismantle the silos that have left so many patients without timely, effective care.

Meanwhile, the systemic problems remain glaring. Most medical schools still provide only a few hours of eating disorder training — if any at all. Physicians themselves admit they lack confidence diagnosing or treating EDs, leaving patients vulnerable to misdiagnosis and harmful delays. Early detection remains the exception rather than the norm.

When leaders now speak of “raising the bar for what trained really means,” the statement lands as an indictment of their own failure to make such training a priority long ago.

The access gap is equally damning. Even when patients are identified, treatment is often out of reach due to cost, lack of specialized providers, or long waiting lists. The promise of “connecting people to care” is meaningless without structural solutions to these barriers. Instead of confronting these realities, the podcasts retreat to abstractions about “shared truths” and “moving mountains” — lofty words detached from the urgency families are facing right now.

What Real Collaboration Would Look Like

Real collaboration does not begin with polished talking points or podcasts lacking in substance.

It begins with humility. It begins with listening — not only to one another as institutions but to the families, survivors, and frontline providers who have long recognized the cost of division. It means relinquishing the obsession with brand dominance and professional gatekeeping in favor of shared goals that truly prioritize patients over power and profit.

True collaboration would look like joint initiatives with transparent governance, shared funding streams that prevent duplication, and open access to resources across organizational boundaries. It would mean building structures that ensure accountability — not merely mouthing the word. And it would require leaders to acknowledge their role in perpetuating division before claiming the mantle of unity.

Until that happens, these podcasts serve less as roadmaps for progress than as monuments to irony: the fox guarding the henhouse, the arsonist auditioning as a firefighter, the vampire running the blood bank.

The eating disorder field — and the people it is meant to serve — deserve better than revisionist performances of collaboration.

We deserve the real thing.

AND THEN … THERE WAS ONE

“One of the saddest lessons of history is this: if we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. That bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back.”

            -Carl Sagan

“Integrity, transparency and the fight against corruption have to be part of the culture. They have to be taught as fundamental values.” 

-Angel Gurría, OECD secretary general.

In the past, I have been asked why I focused quite a bit of attention on iaedp and Acadia.

Regarding Acadia, that is about to end. Not because of great strides made by Acadia in terms of patient care. Certainly not because of transparency nor implementation of a state-of-the-art eating disorder treatment program which addressed all past sins.  Oh no.

It is because … there is but one remaining.

On September 10, 2025, media outlets reported that Acadia was shuttering four facilities.  Options Hospital in Indianapolis and Azure Springs in California.

Oh… and Carolina House and Montecatini. Their last day of operations will be October 9, 2025. Although if you look at their websites, you will never know they were shuttering.

Montecatini still advertises on its website that it is, “Southern California’s Premier Residential Eating Disorder Treatment for Female-Identifying and Nonbinary Individuals Providing Life-Changing Care for Adults and Adolescents for Over 30 Years.” It fails to mention … at least until October 9, 2025. After all, we have to squeeze every last penny from our victims!

Carolina House on its website still advertises, “Personalized Programming in a Safe, Healing Environment. Carolina House offers a range of programming options for individuals struggling with primary eating disorders (age 17+) or primary mental health concerns (age 18+).” It fails to mention … at least until October 9, 2025. After all, that incentive bonus of $1.7 million payable next March to Acadia’s feckless CEO is not going to pay itself!

So, we are left to wonder… are they closing because of gross incompetence of the treatment staff? Or are they closing because they simply were not profitable? And really, aren’t the two inextricably intertwined?

Even though they are closing, are they still accepting new patients? And if so, are they telling those who are suffering that they are being accepted only because Acadia needs a few last dollars and their recovery could possibly be compromised or set back because of Acadia’s greed? Aren’t we justified in assuming new patients, if any, are not being told because Acadia cannot even be transparent on the websites of those two entities?

So, Acadia is left with one eating disorder specific treatment center. McCallum Place. How long will it be before Kim McCallum’s legacy is shuttered?

Kim McCallum and her husband Mark, opened McCallum’s Place in 2002. In 2014, they sold to Acadia reportedly in a cash and stock deal valued at $40 million. Who can blame them? Although that stock portion isn’t looking too rosy right now with Acadia’s stock price in the last year, plummeting from $82 a share to $21.87 today. [Hope you already cashed out Kim.]

McCallum Place is now owned by McCallum Group, LLC. McCallum Group’s organizer, vice president and secretary was Christopher Howard.  Mr. Howard was also general counsel to … Acadia Healthcare until he retired in 2023. In short, Acadia Healthcare, which is NOT a provider of any mental health nor eating disorder treatment services, owns and runs all operations of McCallum Place.

The same Acadia Healthcare which owned Timberline Knolls. Until gross incompetence and systemic abuse resulted in that facility closing.

The same Acadia Healthcare which owned Carolina House. We are justified in questioning whether it was gross incompetence or simply a lack of profiteering which caused that facility to close.

The same Acadia Healthcare which owned Montecatini. We are justified in questioning whether it was gross incompetence or simply a lack of profiteering which caused that facility to close.

Acadia has already clearly demonstrated its “treatment model” for operating eating disorder facilities is an epic failure. How many people suffering from eating disorders have had their recovery set back because of Acadia’s incompetence? How many more will there be?

At this point, we do not know that answers to those questions. But the one thing we do know … for an absolute fact is … McCallum Place … step to the plate.

You are next.

BATTLING ANTISEMITISM IN THE MENTAL HEALTH FIELD

The mental health community has a sordid history of oppression directed toward Jewish therapists and advocates. So much so that in 2005, as a response to the continuing prevalence of antisemitism, the APA adopted the “Resolution on Anti-Semitic and Anti-Jewish Prejudice” (the “Resolution”), in which it condemned “all anti-Semitic attitudes and actions, both overt and covert” and promoted “fairness, respect, and dignity for all people, regardless of religion or ethnicity, in all arenas in which psychologists work and practice.

Importantly, the Resolution also recognized, among other things, that:

a. Antisemitism or “anti-Jewish hostility” has taken “various forms over the centuries,” and that much of the antisemitism we see today takes the form of “prejudiced attitudes” and “discriminatory statements or acts” perpetrated by those who deny “actual bias against Jews”;

b. Perpetrators of modern antisemitism may find it difficult to identify their anti-Jewish bias, “as their beliefs about themselves may be that they are not biased against Jews”;

c. The antisemitic nature of modern anti-Jewish hostility may be disguised as “discourse regarding the actions of the Government of Israel,” and;

d. “[E]xtreme anti-Israel rhetoric” can lead to “demonization and dehumanization of Jews.

In a research article published by the APA in 2024, a group of Jewish psychologists described the various forms of antisemitism that may exist in psychological settings by categorizing antisemitism into four central themes:

(1) overtly antisemitic behavior;

(2) tropes/stereotypes;

(3) erasure/invisibility of identity, and;

(4) silencing.

The article defines “silencing” as a type of antisemitism that “creates environments where some Jewish people feel excluded and even unsafe to reveal important parts of their identity and assimilate in efforts to avoid negative social, educational, or professional consequences. Some examples of silencing as a form of antisemitism provided in the article include “[d]enying Jewish trauma, suppressing Jewish voices, and refuting the lived experiences of Jewish individuals.”

[The preceding paragraphs are set forth in a lawsuit filed against a counseling center operating in Dallas, Texas.]

Licensed psychologists are required to act in accordance with the rules and guidelines set forth by the APA’s Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct (the “APA Ethics Code”). Notwithstanding such in recent years, the mental health field — which encompasses an array of practitioners, including social workers, licensed counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists and more — chose to ignore the APA Ethics Code and created then embraced a bastardized vision of a practice that relies on a social justice framework.

With no diversity of opinion, with no intelligent debate, with no oversight nor compassion, this radical social justice framework has been allowed to fester and grow. It was ripe for a Krakatoa sized eruption of hate filled, mean-spirited vitriol bordering on the very manifestation of evil.

The nightmarish events of October 7, 2023, provided the catalyst. As Iran’s proxy terrorist organization Hamas invaded Israel and committed unspeakable crimes against humanity including torture, murder, rape, kidnapping and other gruesome genocidal acts, we were justified in thinking this reprehensible event would bring us all together in unified condemnation of this atrocity.

Instead, since the events of October 7th, there has been a dramatic 340% increase in global antisemitism.

Equally concerning, since October 7, 2023, there have been increasing reports of antisemitism specifically within the mental health field. Not only has this rise in antisemitism negatively impacted the quality and accessibility of care available for Jewish individuals seeking psychological help, but it has also negatively impacted the livelihoods and employment prospects of Jewish therapists and mental health professionals.

Nathalie Edmond, a professor and the director of counseling at Villanova University taught her students that the “colonized mind” and Zionism are mental illnesses of the frontal lobe alongside fascism, “rape culture” and “genocidal tendencies.” What a load of crap!

Some research studies indicate that up to 75% of Jewish medical professionals say they have experienced antisemitism at work

In part, that is because we have been confronted with a bizarre, alternate reality. The “Mental Health Mean Girls,” consisting of radical therapists and advocates in the mental health community, fanned the volcanic flames of hatred. And the blatant racism exhibited by these mental health mean girls was both shocking and reprehensible. Predictably, it was directed at the all too familiar target of oppression. That is, Jewish people. In this instance, Jewish therapists and counselors.

Before proceeding, I want to point out I am not Jewish. I am not in an intimate relationship with a Jewish woman. In fact, I am a “Fallen Catholic.” More a spiritual sentient being. Discussions of the multiverse or what constitutes “the soul” appeal to me.

As Jewish mental health professionals opened up about the harassment and abuse perpetrated against them by the Mental Health Mean Girls, I began to listen. And investigated. And researched. And what I found bordered on being beyond belief.

Sally Satel, a psychiatrist and fellow at the American Enterprise Institute noted: “More and more clinicians insist that psychotherapy is, foremost, a political rather than a clinical enterprise.” [Violating APA guidelines.]

Calling this approach “critical social-justice therapy,” she says, “Under a social-justice regime, therapists who have the ‘wrong’ politics — they might, for example, believe that Israel has a right to exist and to defend itself — must be kept away from “vulnerable patients.” If, conversely, it is the patient whose politics are perceived to be misbegotten, revising their viewpoint must become the focus of the treatment. [Violating APA guidelines.]

“Currently, Jewish patients (deemed to be members of a privileged group) are finding themselves subject to attempts by activist-therapists to morally reeducate them; no support of Israel can be condoned as it is declared a ‘settler colonial’ state.” [Violating APA guidelines.]

That mindset worked so well in Germany in the 1930s and 1940s. Oh, wait!

Of course, all this nonsense flies in the face of one of the APA’s core competencies, that is cultural competence. The APA defines “cultural competence” as the ability to understand, appreciate, and interact with people from cultures or belief systems different from one’s own.

“When someone posted in a private Facebook group for Chicago therapists in March [2024], asking whether anyone would be willing to work with a Zionist client, several Jewish therapists quickly responded, saying they would be happy to be connected to this person.” Therapists commonly rely on listservs and other online groups for referrals.

“Those who replied, offering their services to this unnamed client soon found themselves added to a list of supposedly Zionist therapists that was shared in a group ironically called ‘Chicago Anti-Racist Therapists’,” Deutch said, adding that the purpose of the list, according to its author, Heba Ibrahim Joudeh, was to prevent referrals to therapists with “Zionist affiliations.” [Violating APA guidelines, federal statutes and most state’s ethical codes.]

According to Deutch, the administrator of the Facebook group, the list was a good way “to be transparent about clinicians who promote and facilitate white supremacy via Zionism.” [Violating APA guidelines.]

“The only trait shared by the 26 therapists on the list,” said Deutch, “is that they are Jewish.” [The information in the preceding paragraphs was set forth in this article.]

https://www.thejewishstar.com/stories/social-justice-shrinks-blacklist-jewish-patients,24134

It gets worse.

According to the aforementioned article and others, anti-Zionism is now the price of admission to the private Facebook group, “Therapists in Private Practice” (TIPP). This group is administered with an iron fist by Namrata Rindani. [Violating APA guidelines, federal statutes and most state’s ethical codes.]

After Oct. 7, prospective members applying for participation in TIPP have been required to respond to the following: “This is an anti-oppression based group. We examine privilege and engage in discourse related to dismantling oppressive systems in the field. We support BLM [Black Lives Matter] and are Pro Palestine. Are you open and willing to support this direction?” Answering the question is not optional. [Violating APA guidelines, federal statutes and most state’s ethical codes.]

Oppressive systems? The horrible irony of this term in its application to that very group would be laughable … if not so tragic.

Since the TIPP supports BLM, let’s briefly review what BLM has become so we understand why it is so deserving of the support of Rindani and her crones.

Ideologically, BLM leans strongly towards radical leftist positions, particularly concerning issues like “defunding the police” and reforming the capitalist system. The idea of redirecting funds from one sector (in this case, the police) to social programs targeting specific communities (Black communities) mirrors principles from Marxist-Leninist textbooks.

The BLM movement (although on life support now) overly emphasizes racial divisions, exacerbating the already polarized nature of American society. Research suggests that BLM overlooks broader issues of violence and crime, reducing everything to racial factors. While the movement is purportedly anti-racist, it exhibits elements of Black racism against white people.

While BLM as a movement is ideologically radically left, its leaders were awash in vice and corruption. BLM’s leaders spent $14 million on purchasing luxury properties in Los Angeles and Toronto. Most of the $90 million donated to BLM did not reach Black communities or improve education, healthcare, or financial conditions—the movement’s stated goals. Instead, the funds were spent on real estate and personal gains for a few leaders.

Back to TIPP, reports indicate it was made clear Jewish therapists and advocates were not safe to voice their opinions or thoughts, or they would be kicked out of TIPP. Multiple people told The Jewish Insider, a daily, journalistic outlet covering policy and politics that they were removed from the TIPP group by Rindani. Their crime? Writing posts supportive of Israel — or even for liking other people’s posts supporting Israel or defending Jewish colleagues who were attacked for their views.

Another Jewish therapist who was kicked out of the TIPP group stated, “The biggest issue is that anyone providing empathy to Jews for any reason is seen as anti-justice, anti-brown, anti-Palestinian, anti-advocacy … If anyone’s having an issue about feeling alone being Jewish, you get spammed in the comments about, ‘Free Palestine.” [Violating APA guidelines, federal statutes and most state’s ethical codes.]

So, the Rindani genocidal (her word, not mine) mob supports criminals, not crime victims and derides the very system which allows them to spew forth their hate messaging while cancelling those who disagree with their views.

Rindani removed a number of members who voiced support for Israel. In one comment on a post from a Jewish member, Rindani made clear there is no room for dissent in her racist group of oppression:

“We are not open to debate about this in particular … I will be direct abt tbis [sic.] and then you can make your choice from there. We as Admin [sic.] call this is a Genocide.” [emphasis added]

A genocide! A genocide? What the hell? Rindani, here is what a genocide looks like you vacuous, insensitive reprobate:

16 Apr 1945, Buchenwald Concentration Camp, Buchenwald, Germany — Survivors at Buchenwald Concentration Camp remain in their barracks after liberation by Allies on April 16, 1945. Elie Wiesel, the Nobel Prize winning author of , is on the second bunk from the bottom, seventh from the left. — Image by © CORBIS

Rational, sane, open minded, compassionate, intelligent people could classify Rindani’s misconduct as racist, hypocritical, and unethical which is not only sanctionable but actionable in courts and before administrative boards.

Since Rindani is in San Diego, the California Board of Behavioral Sciences (“BBS”) may have issues with Rindani and others of her ilk.

The BBS’s mandate is to protect the public, Cal. Bus. & Prof. Code § 4990.16. Conduct doesn’t have to occur inside a therapy session to be actionable. If discriminatory behavior shows a lack of fitness to practice or undermines the trustworthiness of the therapist, the BBS can discipline.

Online harassment, bullying, or antisemitic speech toward colleagues can be viewed as:

(1). Unprofessional conduct (Cal. Bus. & Prof. Code § 4982(n)), or

(2). Dishonest/corrupt acts substantially related to the duties of a therapist (Cal. Bus. & Prof. Code § 4982(v)).

The BBS can also charge Rindani with violations of:

Cal. Bus. & Prof. Code § 4982(n): Unprofessional conduct — This catch-all allows the Board to discipline for conduct that, even outside clinical work, calls into question the therapist’s professional judgment, integrity, or ability to serve clients;

Cal. Bus. & Prof. Code § 4982(v): Dishonest, corrupt, or fraudulent act — If the online conduct includes defamation, harassment, or coordinated discrimination campaigns, this section could apply;

Cal. Bus. & Prof. Code § 4982(b): Gross negligence/incompetence — If online antisemitism reflects an inability to practice therapy in a culturally competent, nondiscriminatory way, it can be framed as incompetence.

But that is far from the problems which could be encountered by reckless, unprofessional, racist therapists like Rindani.

The specter of litigation is very much in play. And no, a presumed first amendment right to free speech does not protect people like Rindani.

The TIPP is a professional referral and marketing forum. Exclusion affects economic and business opportunities. And liability under federal and state statutes is a huge problem.

California has some of the broadest protections in the country. It’s Unruh Civil Rights Act, Cal.Civ. Code § 51, applies to all business establishments of every kind whatsoever and prohibits discrimination based on religion, ancestry, ethnicity, and political beliefs. Courts have interpreted business establishments broadly and a referral marketing group with professional impact qualifies.

Rindani’s conduct could also violate California’s Unfair Competition Law since exclusionary discriminatory practices in a business context are unlawful and unfair.

Exclusion of Jewish counselors arguably violates the federal civil rights statute, 42 USC § 1981 which protects against discrimination and business relationships based on race and ethnic ancestries.  Courts have recognized Jews as a protected racial/ethnic group under § 1981.  If exclusion blocks access to referrals and marketing (which are effectively business opportunities) § 1981 would arguably apply.

If other Moderators or Administrators are working with Rindani to exclude Jewish counselors, then they could be liable through a civil conspiracy to deprive equal protection which violates the Civil Rights Act, 42 USC § 1985.

There are various other state and common law violations perpetrated by Rindani and her crones as well.

The very frightening aspect for Rindani and her crones is that … this type of lawsuit is already pending … right here, in Dallas, Texas.

https://www.thelawfareproject.org/releases/2025-06-18/the-lawfare-project-and-winston-strawn-llp-announce-lawsuit-against-dallas-based-mental-health-clinic

The lawsuit alleges that plaintiffs Yocheved Junger and Jacqueline Katz–two Jewish therapists–were wrongfully terminated in retaliation for exercising their protected right to oppose workplace discrimination, after their employer, a counseling center prevented them from assisting a colleague treating a Jewish client experiencing trauma related to antisemitism. (Sound familiar, TIPP?)  

The plaintiffs in the lawsuit are being represented by Winston & Strawn. This is a powerful, international law firm with at last count, 975 attorneys. With offices throughout the United States, Europe and other locations, that law firm represents wealthy clients. And is financially structured to fight anyone. It employs the brightest and the best.

This very well could be, and should be the future for Rindani and others like her.

There are obvious violations of the APA’s Code of Ethics. There are obvious violations of administrative agency’s codes of ethics. There are obvious violations of federal and state civil rights laws. There are obvious violations of the common laws of numerous states. There are obvious violations of the very laws of human decency.

And … there are obvious ways of retribution against the Mental Health Mean Girls like Rindani.

The harassment, oppression and abuse of Jewish counselors one way or another will come to an end. Through apologies, reformed and enlightened conduct and overall inclusion. Or …

Through administrative complaints to various state and federal agencies (which I am presently working on.) Through class-based litigation filed against Rindani and all those who conspire with her to harass and attempt to cancel Jewish therapists and counselors.

Powerful forces have arrived to right the wrongs wrought by the Mental Health Mean Girls. From this point on, THEY are now the hunted … not the hunter. THEY should be concerned about their future employment. THEY now will know they will no longer will be able to warp the minds of their patients and clients. THEY have every right to be afraid.

For the storm is coming. And it is coming for them.

Therapist on Therapist Oppression: Through the Lens of Logic, Reason and Accountability?

It is improbable, if not impossible to grasp all nuanced messaging which exist in the eating disorder community. There is far too much dysfunction, self-absorption, insecurity, fear, egomania and fractured souls. Families suffering from eating disorders have become an afterthought as radical therapists and advocates spew forth their hate filled messaging and dark opinions and viewpoints on life.

Shouldn’t we all be able to embrace a future filled with hope and recovery led by therapists and advocates who can set aside their own personal vendettas and views on social justice, politics and indigenous person’s land use rights for the sake of people who are suffering and dying from eating disorders?

Shouldn’t we be able to sincerely ask those social justice warriors and pretend advocates why did they get in the eating disorder community to begin with? Was it to save lives? Or has it always been merely a platform they could exploit to spew forth their self-loathing, anger and hatred?

It has reached a point where some advocate’s messaging has passed the boundaries of not just inanities but decency. They don’t care who they hurt or who they damage so long as “their truth,” is spewed forth for all to see. Not only do they utilize social media to parade their ignorance, but they become grand marshal of their ignorance parade.

The latest example of this abomination is the manner in which radical advocates in the eating disorder community intentionally harm, intimidate and silence anyone who does not agree with their pedantic views on the Israel/Palestinian conflict. These therapists attempt to suppress anyone who does not agree with their view that the Palestinians are oppressed, that Israel is committing genocide and that Israel has no right to exist. From the River to the Sea dammit!

Of course, I can’t help but wonder how many of these therapists can even explain which river and which sea are involved. Have they even traveled to that part of the world? Have they experienced “real life?” Or does the totality of their existence consist of what they read on the internet and the marches they attend along with persons who are paid by extremist organizations to incite hatred and division?

Moreover, the fundamental question is … what in the blue hell does a therapist’s views on the Israeli/Palestinian issues have to do with eating disorder treatment? Or treating your fellow professionals with such derision if they do not agree with your opinion? Please provide us all answers to those questions.

I have spoken with a number of therapists who have said they have been bullied, derided, and ostracized because they do not agree with the radical element’s views about Palestine. That they do not feel welcome at events hosted by these oppressive elements. It has digressed so far that those who feel oppressed have begun to organize their own events where they can discuss, oh I don’t know, eating disorder issues respectfully and professionally!

Even so, we must continue to have an open mind. Perhaps those radical therapists have formal training and education in foreign affairs and international diplomacy. Perhaps they have attended master’s programs emphasizing the complexities of foreign policy. Perhaps they attended, and maybe even graduated from the Kennedy School at Harvard, or the Fletcher School of Diplomacy at Tufts University, or the School of Foreign Service at Georgetown, or the Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs at Princeton. Perhaps they are not just using their short sighted, uneducated opinions to create division and rancor! …

But, let’s give them a chance. Let’s give them an opportunity. Let’s ask them which of the following may best describe them and their viewpoint?

We understand the social justice warrior often uses the term “intersectionality.” This word represents the notion that a common thread exists amongst all oppressed groups. By their “logic,” LBGTQIA++ people are oppressed, fat people are oppressed, Palestinians are oppressed, everyone except for white men are oppressed. Therefore, all struggles are automatically tied together. For one to succeed, they must all bond together, beside, and for, each other. All for one! and None for all! … What a crock of bullshevick.

This radical leftist viewpoint is tinged with a misguided transposition of Western identity politics onto the Middle East. This collapses all nuance and reduces a complex situation into a simple binary of “oppressor versus oppressed.” As such, leftists in English-speaking nations tend to see Palestine (including Hamas) as an oppressed, brown victim class whose freedom-fighting “resistance” against their oppressive, white, US-backed colonizers in Israel is a righteous cause with which to stand in solidarity. 

Their argument also lacks logic, facts, reason and quickly falls apart. Not only would most Palestinians recoil at defending LGBTQ rights, (which the eating disorder social justice warriors hold dear) but the Palestinian cause falls far from the circle of the “oppressed.”

Israel is at the forefront of LBGT rights in the Middle East. In Israel, LGBT people are visible members of society with legal protections, civil rights, and a plurality of public acceptance. Tel Aviv began holding pride parades in 1993, long before many other Western cities, and today it stands as a leading mecca of gay culture alongside giants like San Francisco and Berlin. Even the holy city of Jerusalem, Israel’s capital known for tradition and freedom of worship, now hosts an annual pride parade.

Contrarily, the “Queers for Palestine” movement seeks to meld LGBT advocacy with Palestinian liberation. Queers for Palestine absorb the false leftist binary of seeing the world split between the oppressed and oppressor and standing with the seemingly oppressed, even if that means standing against their own interests (or against human rights, in general). This juxtaposition has precipitated a whirlpool of ridicule and criticism due to the fact that LGBT rights scarcely exist within the Muslim world, and the Palestinian territories are no exception. This fallacious binary does a disservice to both the theory it claims to honor and the reality it comes to address – rendering it so ersatz and two-dimensional that it no longer actually exists in the real world.

In October 2022, Ahmad Abu Marhia, a gay Palestinian man was found beheaded. Independent reports found that four Palestinians were killed because they were homosexual. Sharia courts have been set up where homosexuals are threatened with the death penalty by stoning, burning and hanging.  These courts also declare persons suspected of homosexuality to be ‘outlaws’, who can be murdered with impunity.

https://www.europarl.europa.eu/doceo/document/E-5-2003-1346_EN.html

Today in 2025, Palestinian culture ostracizes, humiliates, jails, tortures and often murders people simply for being gay.

Unfortunately, facts, logic, and sound reasoning fall upon deaf ears of the radical element in the eating disorder community. Of course, we could be wrong. Perhaps, the Jihadists would embrace the radical obesity movement and the leftist ideology!

In late February 2025, the Houston Eating Disorder Specialists (HEDS) organization cancelled its seminar entitled, “The Ethics of Modern Eating Disorder Care … Exploring Nuances and Opposing Perspectives.” Its keynote speaker, Gloria Lucas is a Palestinian supporter, and the term “anti-Semite” has been directed toward Ms. Lucas. HEDS’s seminar was cancelled because HEDS could not and did not embrace opposing perspectives and it chose to support the radicalism of one person over the needs of the eating disorder community. Those pesky, whiny families struggling with eating disorders! How dare they seek assistance!

The organizers behind Weight Stigma Awareness Week 2025 are doing their bit to stoke the flames of derision and hatred among eating disorder therapists.

One of the speakers that week is Caleb Luna, a self-described artist, public scholar, theorist of the body and particularly proud, plural pronoun proponent. Luna’s views on intersectionality are as follows: “Considering what is happening to Palestinian people in Gaza and the West Bank; white supremacy, racism, colonization, forced displacement, ethnic cleansing, apartheid and genocide, those of us who claim to be for liberation, including healthcare providers aligned with HAES®, must stand up for what is right. The liberation for fat people, Black people, indigenous people, queer & trans people, AND Palestinian people are interlocked. Our liberation is tied up in one another’s. There is no hierarchy of oppression. If we are all to be free, we must take measured action.” 

The manner in which Luna is woefully off base is legion. Nevertheless, the organizers of this event will allow him to spew forth his illogical, ill-informed opinions during Weight Stigma Awareness Week. He will be applauded by sheep like followers numbering in the “tens” who are desperate for a place they can regard as “home.” No matter how many other people are hurt in the process.

So, for those therapists and professionals who have been bullied, pushed around, ostracized, harassed and demeaned by the Anti-Semitic, Pro Palestine at All Costs, Intersectionality Uber Alles, militant advocates, a few words of advice.

Ignore them, or;

Laugh at them, or;

Confuse them with facts, or;

Confuse them with reason, logic and accountability, or;

Remind them what the eating disorder community is really about, that is, helping families, or;

If all of that is to no avail, then …

Ashes Set Free

We live in a society of rules. Rules for seemingly everything. In 1925, Texas passed a law stating it was illegal to milk another person’s cow. In 1937, Minnesota passed a law prohibiting women from dressing up on public streets as Santa Claus. In 1961, Gainesville, Georgia passed an ordinance stating it was illegal to eat fried chicken with a fork. In Oklahoma, it is technically illegal to cuss in public places, in the presence of a female, or around children under the age of 10. [Which if enforced, would result in a reduction of the average Oklahoman’s verbal communications by 65%.]

Therefore, it should come as no surprise that various international, national, state and local laws exist regulating the spreading of a loved one’s ashes. It should also come as no surprise that there is a cottage industry of corporations who for a shiny dime, will plan, assist and guide you through the spreading of your loved one’s ashes.

I can only imagine Little Johnny, the Ash Scatterer in first grade. When his teacher asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up, Little Johnny enthusiastically responded, “I wanna grow up and help spread my Grandpa’s ashes around the Back 40!”

In the United States, traditional burials are slowly being replaced by cremation and alternative burial or ash-scattering services. According to the 2020 NFDA Cremation & Burial Report, the cremation rate was 56%, surpassing the burial rate of only 37.5%. Cost is certainly one factor. The freedom to release the remnants of your loved one in special places, places of meaning, of meditation, of places which bring peace and comfort are certainly other reasons.

Scattering your loved one’s ashes can elicit deep emotions. In the best of circumstances this act can renew your spirit, strengthen your resolve, be a bold, ever-growing bond and a reminder of your loved one. Ashes are the last, tangible vestige of their physical presence. To leave them in places where your loved one wanted to go, or talked about, or where you had incredible shared experiences, more closely binds your souls together.

For those who know me even in passing, it should come as no surprise that I did not look up nor even consider any laws passed by international, national, state or local governments which would prohibit me from spreading the ashes of my beloved daughter, Morgan.

Morgan is now offshore near Tahiti. She became one with the Grand Canal in Venice, Italy. She is in Washington, D.C. She is a part of a peaceful brook in Kyoto, Japan. She is in the end zone of the Cotton Bowl where she and I enjoyed a number of Texas – ou rivalry games together. Off the coast of Cabo San Lucas. Joined with a shipwreck off Barbados.

And now, part of San Francisco Bay having become one with the water in Sausalito.

Morgan being Morgan of course had to have the last laugh. As I was remembering her, her laughter, her intelligence and yes, her pain, I slowly opened the small container. As she was becoming one with the water, a sudden burst of wind came up and part of her was blown back toward me! Really Morgan? Really? What the actual blue hell?

Well, that was unexpected! The solemnity of the moment being interrupted by the absurdity of wanting perfection.

Afterwards, we slowly walked down the rocky shoreline. About 10 minutes later a local fisherman hooked what appeared to be a large fish. We watched with fascination the on-going struggle. His helper grabbed a large net and when the catch materialized, it was a Stingray! About a 4-foot-wide Stingray! It wasn’t until I returned home that the timing and symbolism of this event was made clear.

Some people believe Stingrays, with their graceful underwater movements represent adaptability and inspire people to navigate life’s difficult currents. They stand for emotional harmony and the significance of preserving inner peace even in choppy waters.

Stingrays are perceptive animals that exhort us to believe in our gut feelings and inner wisdom. They teach us how to approach life’s challenges with poise as they move with grace and finesse. Aren’t those lessons universal? Certainly, I have attempted to learn some of them through Morgan, reading her journals and remembering her strength and struggles.

Poise. Grace. Finesse. Inner peace. Harmony. So easy to write. So difficult to find and embrace. So elusive. We all desire peace and harmony.

And yet, a harsh reality which frightens so many is that sometimes going to war is the only way to find and obtain those elusive qualities of peace and serenity.

But those qualities are present. Surrounding us. Within our grasp. Sometimes, it takes an Ai generated song to remind us of that which gives us strength. And hope. And resolve.

https://suno.com/s/gr86nC62zW2wJ3Mr

Passing Times, Birthdays, Grief and Morgan

Do you believe in the concept of the “circle of life”?

On this plain of existence, we come into the world on a definite day. Our birthday or name day. We leave this world on a definite day. From that perspective, life seems linear. We celebrate the first day. We mourn the last day.

Artificial intelligence software programs tell us the concept of the “circle of life” generally refers to the continuous cycle of birth, growth, death, and renewal that exists in nature. It emphasizes the interconnectedness of all living things and the idea that change is a constant and necessary part of existence. This concept is often symbolized by a circle, representing the cyclical and unending nature of life. 

And so, are we destined to learn about birth, life and death from a software program? A machine? Some black figures and letters on a white background generated by an unfeeling device of our own creation. Ironically, a device which cannot fathom nor understand the depth of the love, the depth of feelings a parent has for their child.

Those programs are designed to imitate us. They are but spectators looking in from the sidelines as we fragile, flawed creatures play the game of life. A game ironically, we cannot win. Those artificial programs cannot feel. They cannot love. They are not sentient. Those artificial programs are but hazy images reflected in our mirror of life.

They cannot understand the reality that birthdays and remembrances of the day a beloved child takes their last breath are often inextricably intertwined.

Sunday, August 10, 2025 would have been Morgan’s 32nd birthday. A day which should have brought great joy. Instead, it is a solemn reminder of she who has been taken. Only parents who have had a child taken can fathom the grief which comes from that tragedy.

Grief is like a river. It ebbs and flows. Sometimes gently bubbling, calm, peaceful. Other times cascading out of control resulting in death and destruction. Rivers change course and carve new pathways. As does grief. Grief is always there impacting parents like us. And yet, grief also effects those people around us. It is eternal.

Whether we give in to our grief, become inundated and swept away by the flood of our anguish, or whether we are able to stand strong and resolute depends not just on our individual gifts and attributes, but by the support given by our loved ones. Those in whose loving arms we find strength and hope.

Regardless, grief becomes part of our identity. It constantly shapes us into whatever result we are destined to become. And unless a person has been subjected to and endured that type of grief, one cannot possibly understand the life altering experience which results from having a child taken from you.

Often, people will look upon you as if you had not suffered that tragedy. It is easier for them that way. In looking at you, they may be feeling to a greater extent, their own destiny. All of our destinies. They cannot possibly understand the all-encompassing way it changes your identity, your very existence. Your outlook on life. Your outlook on societal and political issues. Your outlook on all issues. Who you are.

Especially since culturally we seem to be devolving into tribes defined by our feckless political parties, demanding that you remain in your own echo chamber; to close your eyes and ears to those who do not agree with you. Combine that reality with the manner in which grief has manifested itself within me and the result is daunting. And for many, frightening.

In life, Morgan was direct. She pushed boundaries. She was intelligent and creative. And she could be manipulative. She did not suffer fools gladly. She would argue with you, turn your own points against you and she knew how to exploit people’s weaknesses. Her foibles and flaws were obvious.

Should it be a surprise from whom she inherited those traits? Should it also be a surprise when those same traits in me are magnified because of the grief I suffer daily? Through memories and reminders of Morgan.

Morgan, I will not say Happy Birthday. Instead, I will say … You are a warrior. You have the heart of a lioness! Keep exploring. Keep expanding your existence.

Your soul is boundless and eternal.

Turning Lemons Into Lemon Lavender Mojitos … Or Not.

This past month marked a number of notable events. The tragic loss of life in Kerrville, Texas. Followed by the expected finger pointing by room temperature IQ politicians and their minions. The deaths of Hulk Hogan and Ozzie Ozborne. And of course, the Coldplay Kiss Cam scandal.

It is rare indeed in our history when one mistake, one moment, one stupid word, one selfish deed or bad choice has the power to tear apart lives and to devastate peoples’ worlds. To err is human – but for someone to film that erring and share it and have it so noxiously trend is decidedly 2025.

The Coldplay scandal brought forth the combined dangers of society embracing schadenfreude with the ubiquity of cell phones and the terrifying swiftness of the algorithm.

Millions of people laughed at the internet memes:

But behind the laughter tragic stories await. The children who will surely be subjected to bullying classmates when school resumes this fall. Broken hearts. Lost friends. Families torn asunder.

And yet, from these ashes rise lessons learned by turning lemons into lemon lavender mojitos.

Previously, if you asked 100 random people if they had ever heard of Astronomer, perhaps 99 would say, “Oh yes. They are a bunch of gray haired, tweed wearing, pipe smoking, creepy old men looking at the stars.”

In fact, Astronomer, Inc. is a private data infrastructure company valued at $1.3 billion and is considered a unicorn. While not a household name in the broader public sphere, it’s a significant player in the data orchestration space, particularly with its Astro platform built on Apache Airflow. The company has achieved this valuation through private funding rounds, the most recent being a $93 million Series D round in May 2025. 

But now, Astronomer’s public name was on a path associated with a sexual scandal which if not handled swiftly and intelligently, could result in the company’s demise. Imagine, the first time the general public knows of your existence is because of a scandal involving the CEO and Chief People’s Officer. (“CPO”). “Oh! I’ve heard of you guys. You’re the icky, gropey CEO, Coldplay company!”

However, the Board of Directors for Astronomer acted wisely and started an immediate investigation. The CEO was placed on administrative leave and negotiations for his exit were expedited. So too the CPO. The CEO resigned with the terms of his departure remaining confidential. So too the CPO.

But the problem remained. The company was now publicly known for this scandal. Astronomer had to find a way to regain the narrative. To quickly and decisively illustrate the substance and value of Astronomer and its employees.

They employed (on a very temporary basis), Gwyneth Paltrow as a spokesperson. And then released a one minute PR video. Found here:

Brilliant. Absolutely brilliant.

It was revealed that a PR firm, Maximum Effort, was the driving force behind this pivot.  Maximum Effort was founded by actor, Ryan Reynolds.

https://www.businessinsider.com/ryan-reynolds-maximum-effort-gwyneth-paltrow-astronomer-ad-2025-7

The genius behind having Ms. Paltrow involved was that she was formerly married to the lead singer for Coldplay. Her tongue-in-cheek, humorous statement was perfect. Ms. Paltrow used the platform to promote Astronomer’s products. “Thank you for your interest in Astronomer,” Ms. Paltrow said at the video’s end.

Ms. Paltrow’s one minute statement put the substance of Astronomer on the map. Her statement has over 40 million views. Through vision, foresight and genius, Astronomer took a toxic situation, got rid of the offending executives, pivoted and made its brand and name recognition stronger than it had ever been. And that in a manner of days.

That is because they had experienced, smart executives on their Board who obviously conducted a professional investigation resulting in decisive action, not distraction.

There have been other companies and organizations who have experienced scandal and through an intelligent investigation, made corrective changes and continued their operations.

In 2021, allegations surfaced that Bill Gates at Microsoft had an inappropriate relationship with an employee while serving as a company executive. Microsoft’s board hired an external law firm to conduct a thorough investigation into the matter. Gates stepped down from the board in 2020, reportedly during the probe. And Microsoft publicly acknowledged the inquiry and communicated that they took the complaint seriously.

In 2019, allegations arose that McDonald’s CEO Steve Easterbrook had a consensual relationship with a subordinate, violating company policies. McDonald’s board retained independent outside counsel to investigate. Easterbrook was terminated “without cause” at first, but after uncovering that he lied and destroyed evidence, McDonald’s sued him and clawed back his severance (worth over $100 million). The company publicly disclosed the suit and emphasized ethical standards.

In 2016, Wounded Warrior Project (WWP), a veterans’ charity, was accused by whistleblowers and media of excessive executive spending and misrepresenting programmatic expenditures on its IRS Form 990. It was accused of misrepresenting how donor funds were allocated (e.g., inflating program expenses); IRS Form 990 filings were allegedly misleading, suggesting more was spent on veterans than occurred. Their board of directors hired the law firm Simpson Thacher & Bartlett LLP and forensic accountants to conduct an independent review. The CEO and COO were terminated following the investigation. A reorganization followed, and WWP revamped its governance, spending policies, and financial transparency. No criminal charges were filed, but major reforms were implemented to avoid future tax-law violations.

These investigations and responses share certain similarities. An outside, credible law firm was retained.  Independence was preserved (investigators did not report to implicated individuals). The implicated individuals were placed on administrative leave. A Board of Directors acted quickly, wisely and expeditiously. Transparency was paramount … investigation findings were summarized publicly.

That is absolutely the best way to proceed when scandal, unethical conduct and/or questionable behavior are brought to the attention of and plague an organization.

Naturally, allegations of inappropriate or questionable behavior have arisen in eating disorder organizations. When made aware of alarming allegations, the response differed greatly.

Five years ago, questionable conduct of certain officers was brought to NEDA’s attention. NEDA’s Board acted decisively. They utilized a reputable, outside law firm to investigate. The officers in question were quickly dispatched. They brought in a respected, interim CEO. NEDA agreed to early mediation before litigation spun out of their control. They entered into a settlement, made changes and are on a path of trying to remain relevant. That was due in no small measure because NEDA had experienced business persons on their Board. NEDA’s Board should be commended. Because another chose not to follow that path.

When serious issues involving tax fraud, whether that organization even was in good standing, when conflicts of interest and violations of numerous federal statutes were brought to the attention of iaedp, its response was very different.

In essence iaedp stated thank you for bringing these issues to our attention. But there is nothing to see here… move along. Its managing director was not placed on administrative leave and was allowed to rule the roost with an iron fist for at least another 18 months. The law firm iaedp brought in did not isolate the managing director. iaedp chose to not be transparent with its chapters nor the public.

To date, this lack of transparency has not changed.

Do the chapters, do eating disorder professionals, does the public know about the extent of the alleged wrongdoing or how tenuous the existence of iaedp may be? How long must the lack of transparency continue?

If an organization chooses to not trust you with how it addresses troubling issues which threaten its very existence, why should you trust it with your time, your money, your energy … your certification?

Perhaps it is time to call Ryan Reynolds to the rescue.